Love Yourself More

All of us were born with perfect love.
However, somewhere along our journey, due to our wrong decisions and mistakes, we developed some voices in our head that result in decreased sense of self. Unconsciously, all the pains brought by failures, defeat and hurtful experiences become a factor in losing our self-esteem and confidence, thus prevent us from loving ourselves.

But come to think of it... how are we gonna give love if we cannot love ourselves? and how the people around us love us if in the first place we cannot love ourselves?

Filling yourself with so much love is very important so you will have healthy relationships. When you love yourself, you won't become needy and you don't rely your happiness according to the reactions and conditions of people around you.

Here are the 5 things you can do to love yourself more.

1. Commit to doing self care thing. 
Always make time to pamper yourself at least once a week.
Have a foot spa. Get a makeover to the salon. Get a massage. This is very helpful and powerful because you are reminding yourself that you are worth the time and effort. When you actually care for yourself, you are loving yourself.

2.  Believe in your worthiness. 

You are unique.
You are worthy.
You are kind.
You are loving.
and you deserve the perfect love in this world.

Appreciate your worth.  When you do this, it will be easier to appreciate the worth of others and you will have healthy and happy relationships.

3. Forgive yourself.
Ask forgiveness to the Lord for your mistakes. Forgive yourself and move on.
Don't forget that you are a human. Let go and Let God.

 4. Improve Yourself.
Be a better version of you everyday. Read books. Listen to inspirational stories. Get a mentor. Do all the things that you can to improve yourself. You will be amazed on how it would increase your self confidence.. and self love!

5. Spend time with the right people.
Be careful with the people you spend the most of your time with. Hang out with people who can inspire you, whose hearts are not filled with neediness but so much love.

This doesn't mean that you won't spend time with difficult and toxic people. You can get along with them but limit the time you will spend on them. We have a limited number of hours in a day and we should always be careful on how we will be using this time.

Please take time to watch the video below. It was made for women, but it applies to all human, regardless of gender, age and status.

Believe that You Are Amazing, You Are Awesome.




Be a better you everyday,
Maya

How to Balance Life and Work

I have a friend who has always been complaining about the working hours she has. She told me she doesn't have much time on things she wants to do - such as getting some exercise, learning to cook a meal, and sharing quality moments with her family.

She's always telling me "I don't have a choice, my job requires me to work 8-12 hours a day and all my energy is already drained after working hours that I am not able to do other things anymore.

Then she asked a question...
"Is there really such thing as work-life balance?"

Well, the answer is YES.

Let me share 7 ways I got from reading self help books and research on how to balance Life and Work.

1. Focus on things that really matter. Be very clear on what you value. Focus on what you want to achieve so you can spend your energy and attention to these things. It isn't about balancing your time, but balancing your energy. It isn't about time management, but priority management.

2. Make a schedule. Plan your day according to what you value. When you are clear about the things that really matter, you can plan your day according to these things. In this manner, you will avoid unnecessary stress.

3.  Commit yourself not to use your laptop, tablet or cellphone on specific days. If possible, you may also turn off your wifi so you can't access the internet. Spend this whole day with your family. Give your focus, full time energy and attention with your loved ones.

4. Minimize unnecessary and unproductive talks at work that can take away your energy. Again, be very clear on what really matters. Don't stop for every dog that barks. Discern things and circumstances and avoid distractions.

5. Turn off autopilot. Yes, we can do anything we want, but we have to accept that we can't just do everything. Make a realistic "to do list" for the day and finish the biggest task first. Don't miss to take few breaks, grab a drink and take a walk so you can refresh your brain before moving on to the next thing.

6. Schedule specific days to learn something new or pamper yourself - play an instrument? cook a new meal? go to salon or spa? - anything that can make you feel good!

Enjoy your "Me Day.' YOU DESERVE IT!

7. Don't forget to surrender anything that is beyond your control. One of the reasons why people get easily stressed nowadays is that they are trying to get all things done on their own. Be humble to accept that you can't just do all things. Don't be scared to delegate to other people. Surrender to God anything that is beyond your control.

Be a better you everyday,
Maya

Don't Be a Complainer

Have you ever find yourself always complaining about the people in your life?

Are you an employee who repeatedly complain about the companies policies and your boss' biased opinions on promotions?

Do you complain during traffic?

Do you constantly find yourself complaining about the circumstances in your life?

If yes, you are an ultimate complainer.

Let me tell you something.

Complaining is not for the winners in life.

Don't get me wrong. I don't mean to totally ignore every negative feelings you have. It's fine to share your feelings with a close friend or family member. Allow yourself to vent every once in a while.

Being dissatisfied is normal and there's always a room for valid complaints. However, beware and make sure that complaining will not take over your life. It can destroy you and leave you without anything.

Does anything happen after you complain? I guess NONE.

Complaining is useless.
There are bad things in our lives that we can't avoid from happening. But our experience through these bad things depends on how we respond to it. It's just a matter of choice.

People who complain will get more of what they're complaining about. It's a law of attraction. It's how life works. Complainers create the problems and miseries they will experience. The moment they think about it, they materialize it.

Instead of complaining...

Change the way you think. Change your perspective about life. God gave our lives to enjoy.
Make a list of things to be thankful for- there are a lot! Focus on these things.
Love the things you possess and love the people in your life.
Surrender to God your uncontrollable circumstances and frustrations.

Make a decision now.
Don't be a complainer.

“Complaining does not work as a strategy. We all have finite time and energy. Any time we spend whining is unlikely to help us achieve our goals. And it won't make us happier.”

- Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture

Be a better you everyday,
Maya

Be Different

Be Different.

Walk away from the crowd.

Walk away from the people who don't dream.

Walk away from the people who don't take action to succeed.

Walk away from the people who don't spend time to improve themselves.

Don't do what they do.

Don't go where they go.

Don't talk the way they talk.

Take charge of your life,

Take charge of your day,

Take charge of your finances,

Take charge of your health,

Take charge of your career,

Take charge of your relationships.

Anything you can control, take charge!

Commit yourself to a whole new journey this 2014.

Start planning for your year, months and days.

Start plotting your career path.

Start planning your finances.

Start taking action for a good health.

Start finding ways to improve your spirituality.

Start building good relationships.

All you have to do is to START.

Once you experience a good life, you will never go back to the old ways, to the old language, to the old times.

Commit yourself to success everyday.

Let your work be your declaration of God's love to the world.

Make 2014 a breakthrough year.

" Success is something you attract by the person you become"

- Jim Rohn

Be a better you everyday,

Maya

Simple Steps to a Better Day

Do you have a goal of making each day of your life "a better day?"- that you don't have to wait for a promotion or for a Christmas season for you to call a day a "great day?"

Taking out those 'don't happen everyday" things (like the day you got married or the day you got promoted), let me give you 5 simple steps to a better day.

1. Laugh often. I can't imagine myself without a laughter on a day. I always find myself laughing at stuff - by watching comedy videos in Youtube or by talking to a friend about crazy stuff.

However, always be reminded to laugh at things , not to people.

According to study, laugh is a strong medicine for mind and body. It is a powerful antidote to stress, pain and conflict.

So don't be too hard on yourself. Find a way to laugh so you can make each day a better day everyday.

2. Take a walk. Go out of your house, take a walk and breathe the fresh outdoor air. Clear your mind. Calm yourself.

 Say to yourself "How lucky I am to be alive and enjoy the things and people in this world"
It will definitely have a great effect on your day.

3. Give as many hugs as you can. A recent Canadian study shows that an affectionate cuddle is beneficial in bringing up positive emotions and improving our frame of mind.

A loving hug in the morning can keep you buoyant throughout the day.
So what are you waiting for? Start giving your hugs now.

4. Let go. Stop caring about everything. Simply let some things go. Let go and let God. Do your best for things that you can control and pray for things that are beyond your power.

5. Love more. Love yourself. Love your impatient partner. Love your naughty kid. Love your selfish sister. Love your noisy neighbors. Love the imperfect people around you.

Recently, I realized that the kinder I am to everyone, even if they don't reciprocate, the better day I have.

"Everyday is a good day to be alive, whether the sun's shining or not"

- Marty Robbins

Fail More

"If you're not failing, you're not growing"

- H. Stanley Judd

In school we learn that mistakes are bad and we are punished for making them. Yet, if you look at the way humans are designed to learn, we learn by making mistakes. 

We learn to walk by falling down.
If we never fell down, we would never walk.

Don't be scared to make a mess.
Don't be scared to be ridiculed at.
Don't be scared to be laughed at.
Don't be scared to be criticized.
Don't be scared to fail and make mistakes.

Successful people failed many times in their lives before they become successful.

Oprah Winfrey was fired from one of her first jobs because she was "unfit for TV."

Walt Disney was told a mouse would never work.
SIdney Poitier was told to become a dishwasher.

Oliver Stone was dropped out of school.

Steven Spielberg got rejected from film school ... three times

Stephen King received 30 rejections for "Carrie"

Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team

Steve Jobs was removed from the company he started

Hugh Jackman got fried from 7-Eleven


So what are you waiting for?
Make a mess, make a miracle!


Be a better you everyday,
Maya

Listen More

"Most people do not listen with the intent to understand, they listen with the intent to reply"

- Stephen Covey

Listening is very significant to every relationship. 
Without listening, there's no communication.

When was the last time you found someone who display a genuine interest in what you want to share? 
How did you feel?

We feel loved, valued, and significant when someone pays attention to what we are saying.

So the next time you encounter someone who want to share something with you, focus on what he's trying to say. Have a burning desire to understand his insights. As much as you can, refrain from thinking about how to respond so you can focus more on his concerns. In addition, do not judge the person based on what he is sharing. Always remember that the purpose of listening is to UNDERSTAND. Do not try to give advice if the person is not asking for it. Just listen and understand.

“We have two ears and one mouth, so we should listen more than we say.” 
― Zeno of Citium

Be a better you,
Maya